I have been in love with Matthew since I first saw him.
Sorta like I was with College Boy. ‘Cept I loved him before I first knew him.
That is why THIS story is so hard to tell. And people, well-meaning people, all want to tell me their opinion, of how I should deal with my son that has not moved out.
I have asked on forums, of other bloggers I know, have you had to kick your son out?
No one ever responds.
Here are the facts: I wrote a blog about how I had a family photo taken… and we all looked like we were carved out of cream cheese. I hardly recognized us, my family. We looked perfect. We looked like your facebook posts.
Like 67 times if you love your husband.
Share if you think you daughter is the greatest.
Send the color of your bra in your status if you think you are the ONE PARENT ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET that is impervious to what lies ahead, and that YOUR child will not fall into the ills of the future.
My bra is black!
I am NOT impervious.
I may just be a fraud and a failure.
My kid did not launch.
He lives in my basement. *SIGH*
He makes real good puppets though.
And… in an unusual twist…. (there is no font for it, so it is up to you to sense the snark.)
HE BLAMES ME. For everything.
You didn’t pay your cell phone bill? Good news, it’s probably my fault.
You don’t have a job? Well, I’m in HR. I probably did not call your references, again, totally my fault.
You are not happy?
Did I not hire the right clown at your 8th birthday? Yep, that is on me, as well.
Does your butt itch?
Well, I probably bought the wrong toilet paper for you dear.
That is all you can expect of me… Mommy is here to help protect you from the world. In my 40’s that is what I know. Ask me again next decade. Mommy will know new tricks.
But at 40+, here is what mommy DOES KNOW.
- It is not ALL my fault. I will admit to 50%.
- You decide which 50% is yours to take ownership of.
- Are you a willing participant in your own life?
- People try to be supportive of my decision to ask you to leave, but I see their eyes. I see their judgment and yours.
- That is fine. Choose better than I did. Show me where I was wrong.
- Do better.
- Succeed more.
- Trust me, I am okay with you being more than mommy is.
- THE BEST thing mommy ever did was YOU and YOUR BROTHERS.
- A very close second; was my husband. I chose well there too.